Have you ever caught yourself wondering, How did I get here? You’re doing all the right things, checking off the to-do list, showing up for everyone else but somehow, your own joy feels like an afterthought. In this episode of the Total Health in Midlife Podcast, I sit down with Debbie Heiser, Chief Igniter of The Lit Up Life, to talk about what it really takes to build a business and a life that feels fully aligned and lit up from the inside out. Debbie and I talk about what it means to live in integrity with yourself while making good money doing work you love. We explore how so many of us, especially women, have been conditioned to downplay what we want, to stay small, and to avoid being “too much.” Debbie shares how learning to own your desires, trust your decisions, and flip the script on guilt and Read More . . .
Confused About Food? Here’s a Simple Way to Make Eating Easier
I was standing in the beverage aisle at Costco—half out of patience, half out of hope—searching for my usual sparkling water. Not because it’s magic or detoxifying or anything ridiculous like that. I just like the fizz. It breaks up the flat water monotony. But if I drink too much, it gives me GERD. So I’m picky. Anyway, I hadn’t seen it in weeks. I was scanning the shelves like a hawk, when a woman I knew—a local restaurant owner—walked by. I asked if she’d seen it in stock somewhere else. Before I could finish, she spotted the brand I’d brought from home and said: “Oh my god, that one? That stuff is TERRIBLE for you. I’d never drink that. It’s so highly mineralized—it’s the worst one.” And I just stood there, blinking. I wasn’t even buying it. But somehow, I was now under nutritional cross-examination for a bottle of Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #225: Answering the Question, “Is it Healthy?”
Is this healthy… or fat as sh*t?” Why That Might Be the Wrong Question Entirely. Have you ever paused mid-scroll, staring at some sort of ‘food hack’ on Instagram, and wondered, “Wait… is that actually good for me?” In this episode, I peel back the layers of that deceptively simple question and challenge the rigid good vs. bad food mindset that so many of us carry. Through a relatable Costco story, surprising examples (yes, even kale can be ‘unhealthy’ for some people), and a new framework called the “Three Food Buckets,” I help reframe how we think about food, moving away from judgment and toward self-trust and context. This episode dives into the exhausting cycle of all-or-nothing thinking, second-guessing every bite, and feeling like one “wrong” food choice will derail everything. I walk you through how you’ve been trained to treat food like a morality test and why that thinking Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #224: When We Ignore Our Own Boundaries
Have you ever noticed how you can be completely on it in one area of your life, like nailing your eating habits and moving your body, while completely bulldozing your own rules in another? You know that getting enough sleep makes you feel amazing, yet you stay up for just ‘one more’ episode. Or you set a boundary around your phone use, only to immediately check Instagram the next morning. Why do we do this? This episode of The Total Health and Midlife Podcast dives into the deeper reasons why we override our own boundaries, and spoiler alert, it’s not about willpower. If you’ve ever found yourself breaking the very rules you set for yourself, this episode is for you. We like to tell ourselves that discipline and self-control are the answers, but if that were true, we wouldn’t keep repeating the same patterns. The real issue? Disconnection. When we Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #223: Midlife, Anxiety, & Alcohol
What if the very thing you use to unwind is actually keeping you stuck? Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night with your heart racing and your mind spinning, wondering why you feel so anxious? Or maybe you notice a lingering unease throughout your day, a quiet hum of worry that you can’t quite place. Most of us chalk it up to stress, hormones, or just the realities of midlife. But what if there’s another hidden factor that’s fueling your anxiety, one that’s so ingrained in our daily habits that we rarely question it? In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers on alcohol and anxiety, exploring how that evening glass of wine or celebratory cocktail might not be helping you relax as much as you think. You don’t have to quit drinking, but what if you just paid attention? I share my personal journey of Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #222: Learning to Trust Yourself with Dawn Ledet
What if the reason you’re struggling to follow through on your health goals isn’t a lack of willpower—but a lack of self-trust? In this episode of the Total Health and Midlife Podcast, I sit down with Self-trust Coach and author, Dawn Ledet to unpack why we often fall off track with our wellness intentions. Dawn reveals that missed goals aren’t a sign of self-sabotage or failure; they’re simply feedback. Instead of beating ourselves up, we can rewire our inner dialogue, build trust in our decisions, and finally create lasting consistency in our habits. Dawn introduces her three-part framework for self-trust—making decisions, following through, and having your own back—while exposing the common mental traps that keep us stuck. She explains how our brains are wired to focus on past failures, distort our present, and predict future disappointment, making it easy to give up before we even begin. But with simple shifts Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #221: Menopause, Sleep, Stress, & Recovery
We think that health is all about eating and exercising. But that’s not the whole story. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right,” eating well, exercising, and following all the health rules, but still not seeing the results you expect, this episode is for you. The truth is, diet and exercise are only part of the equation. What’s often missing? Stress, sleep, rest, and recovery. These are the overlooked pillars of true health, especially in midlife when your body starts playing by a whole new set of rules. In today’s episode, we dive deep into why prioritizing rest isn’t a luxury. It’s a necessity for real, lasting health. We live in a world that glorifies doing more, pushing harder, and ignoring the warning signs of burnout. But as women in midlife, we can’t afford to keep running on empty. When stress levels soar and sleep suffers, our bodies Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #220: What to Expect in Maintenance
Have you ever made progress with your health… and then, slowly, without realizing it, started letting the little things slide? In this episode, I dive deep into a universal experience in health journeys: the quiet backslide that happens after success. I call it the “cocky syndrome,” that phase where we get a little too confident, start cutting corners, and convince ourselves it’s just balance or moderation. But when the momentum starts slipping and we don’t feel as good as we used to, we’re left confused, frustrated, and often blaming ourselves. I share a relatable personal story involving my piriformis pain, which only flares up when I slack on my short daily routine. I use it to highlight a powerful metaphor: Just like kids, our habits need supervision, structure, and eventually, gentle maintenance. What once needed full focus now requires ongoing care, not perfection, just consistent attention. This episode breaks down Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #219: Graceful Mom with Kim Damon
What if the key to transformation isn’t about doing more but about being more? In this episode, I sit down with Kim Damon, a true expert in personal growth and transformation, to explore the deep shifts that lead to lasting change. Kim shares her journey of breaking through limitations, embracing authenticity, and stepping into a life of purpose. Her insights challenge the conventional approach to self-improvement, encouraging us to move beyond surface-level tactics and into profound, identity-based transformation. Throughout our conversation, Kim reveals the mindset shifts and emotional breakthroughs that pave the way for real success. She dives into the hidden beliefs that hold people back and offers practical strategies to rewire thought patterns for growth. Whether you’re facing a career shift, personal roadblocks, or simply looking to elevate your life, Kim’s wisdom will resonate deeply. Join us as we uncover the power of self-awareness, the courage to embrace change, Read More . . .
How to Stop Overeating
Why You’re Overeating (Even When You Know Better) You’re not lazy.There’s nothing wrong with you And no, you don’t need another damn diet. But if you’re like most of the women I work with, you still find yourself in the kitchen most nights, rummaging through the fridge like you’re going to find answers behind the almond milk. You ate a balanced dinner.You’re not physically hungry.But you’re standing there, eyeing that chocolate or the leftover pasta like it’s a lifeline. Sound familiar? This is what emotional eating in midlife often looks like.It doesn’t always show up as a dramatic binge. Sometimes it’s quiet, just a little bite here, a few crackers there. But it adds up. Not just on the scale (although let’s be real, that’s part of it), but in how you feel. Physically heavy. Mentally foggy. Emotionally worn out. And you beat yourself up.Because you know better. You’ve read Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #218: How to Get Back on Track
Ever started strong with your health habits, only to fall off track and feel like a failure? What if I told you that relapse isn’t proof you’ve failed… it’s actually, part of the process? In this episode of the Total Health in Midlife podcast, I’m breaking down the biggest mindset shift that separates those who succeed from those who stay stuck. You’ll learn why slip-ups happen, how to stop them from turning into full-blown backslides, and the one question that will completely change how you handle setbacks. If you’ve ever thought you just need more willpower to stay consistent, this episode will change everything. Tune in now, because the goal isn’t to be perfect, it’s to keep going. What You’ll Learn from this Episode Listen to the Full Episode: Featured on the Show: Full Episode Transcript: How many times have you told yourself this time I’m going to stick with Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #217: How Fitness Impacts Your Menopause Symptoms
Are you struggling with hot flashes, brain fog, stubborn weight gain, or low energy? What if I told you that the solution isn’t about pushing harder but training smarter? In this episode, I’m diving into how the right kind of exercise, especially strength training, can help ease menopause symptoms, boost energy, and keep you feeling strong and capable as you age. And the best part? You don’t need long, grueling workouts to see results. For years, we were told that the key to fitness was spending hours sweating it out at the gym. But in midlife, that approach doesn’t just stop working, it actually works against us. I’ll break down why traditional exercise methods often fail women over 40 and how stress from overtraining can make symptoms worse. Instead, I’ll share a more effective strategy: short, strength-based workouts that build muscle, protect bone density, and improve metabolism, all in just Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #216: HEALED with Sarah Sparks
Midlife is a time of transformation, not crisis. If you’ve ever felt weighed down by emotions you can’t quite name or struggled with fatigue despite doing “all the right things,” you’re not alone. In my conversation with Soul Alignment Coach Sarah Sparks, we explored the deep connection between emotional well-being and physical health. Sarah’s ‘HEALED’ process—a six-step journey designed to release emotional burdens and reconnect with your true self—offers a powerful way to find clarity, ease, and renewed energy. One of the most powerful insights Sarah shared is that healing isn’t just about fixing what’s wrong; it’s about embracing who we truly are. So often, we fight against change, trying to push through discomfort instead of listening to what our emotions and bodies are telling us. But what if midlife is an invitation to pause, realign, and step into a more authentic, peaceful version of ourselves? Through emotional release and Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #215: Preparing for Plateau
What if I told you that hitting a plateau isn’t a sign of failure, but actually proof that your body is working exactly as it should? If you’ve ever felt stuck—doing everything “right” but seeing no progress—you’re not alone. Plateaus are a natural part of any weight loss journey, yet most people aren’t prepared for them. Instead of panicking or making drastic changes, what if you could anticipate them and navigate through them with confidence? In this episode, we uncover why plateaus happen, what they really mean for your progress, and the most effective ways to push through without resorting to extremes. You’ll learn how to track progress beyond the scale, why your body adapts over time, and how to set yourself up for success ‘before’ a plateau even happens. Plus, I share a real-life client story of how she overcame a six-week stall by trusting the process—without cutting more Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #214: Meeting Yourself Where You’re At
Have you ever felt like you’re constantly falling short of your health goals—like no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to make lasting changes? What if the problem isn’t you, but the approach you’re taking? In today’s episode, we’re tackling the mindset shifts that could completely transform your health journey. If you’ve ever been stuck in the cycle of high hopes followed by disappointment, this conversation is for you. We’re diving into why the relentless ‘shoulds’ in your head are doing more harm than good, and how accepting where you are right now might actually be the key to moving forward. We’ve been conditioned to believe that success comes from pushing harder, setting aggressive goals, and never letting ourselves ‘slip up.’ But what if that’s the very thing keeping us stuck? In this episode, I’m sharing a game-changing perspective on why unrealistic expectations set us up for Read More . . .
Does Health in Midlife Feel Like You Just Can’t Win?
Health in midlife can feel like an endless struggle—one where no matter what you do, someone says you’re “doing it wrong.” One day, carbs are the enemy. The next, it’s dairy. And somehow, even water is up for debate. If you’re tired of the conflicting advice, the guilt, and the constant second-guessing, you’re not alone. In this post, I’ll show you why health feels so confusing in midlife—and how to reset in a way that actually works for you. Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #213: Clutter & Your Health
Have you ever walked into a messy kitchen or a cluttered bedroom and felt an invisible weight settle on your shoulders? The truth is, your environment isn’t just a backdrop to your life—it’s a powerful force shaping your habits, energy, and health. In this episode, I uncover how clutter impacts your mental clarity, emotional well-being, and even your ability to maintain healthy routines. From messy counters making meal prep feel overwhelming to a cluttered table derailing mindful eating, you’ll hear how your space might be holding you back in ways you never realized. Through relatable client stories and actionable insights, this episode reveals the hidden link between your physical surroundings and your overall health. You’ll learn how clearing even one small area—like a corner of your kitchen or a cluttered nightstand—can spark a ripple effect of positive change, making healthier habits feel more accessible and inviting. Plus, you’ll hear practical Read More . . .
Is Clutter Draining Your Energy? How a Messy Home Disrupts Your Health and What to Do About It
Clutter, Stress, and Your Health: The Hidden Connection You walk into your kitchen, ready to make a healthy meal, but the counters are covered in mail, yesterday’s coffee cup, and a half-unpacked grocery bag. Before you even start, you feel drained. The thought of clearing space just to begin cooking is overwhelming, so you grab takeout instead. Or maybe it’s your bedroom—your supposed sanctuary—where laundry piles on the chair, unread books stack up on the nightstand, and the dresser top is a chaotic mix of receipts, lotions, and random clutter. Instead of feeling calm before bed, you feel restless. Your sleep suffers. Sound familiar? It’s Not Just Mess—It’s a Mental and Physical Health Issue Most women don’t realize just how much their environment impacts their well-being. Clutter isn’t just about having too much stuff—it’s a constant source of stress, distraction, and mental exhaustion. Studies show that living in a cluttered Read More . . .
Total Health in Midlife Episode #212: Liking Your Reasons vs Believing Your Excuses
Have you ever hit snooze on your alarm, promising yourself you’ll walk later, only for later to never happen? Or told yourself, ‘It’s just one chocolate-covered almond,’ only to feel a pang of guilt afterward? These tiny moments of negotiation with yourself can leave you wondering: am I being kind to myself, or just letting myself off the hook? In today’s episode, we’re diving into that tricky gray area where reasons meet excuses. How do you tell the difference between a choice that genuinely serves you and one that holds you back from your health goals? Join me as I tackle one of the most common questions I hear: how do I balance self-compassion with accountability? We’ll explore how to make thoughtful decisions in moments of stress, fatigue, or temptation that align with your long-term health goals—and leave you feeling confident instead of regretful. With relatable examples, actionable tips, and Read More . . .
How to Eat to Manage Menopause Symptoms & Weight Control
Tired of unpredictable hot flashes and endless food confusion? Discover how targeted meals, simple habit tweaks, and better “menopause nutrition guidance” can finally bring calm, energy, and confidence back into your life—without giving up everything you love to eat. Read More . . .