Total Health in Midlife Episode #258: The Food Was Free, But You Paid Anyway: What It’s Really Costing You

When was the last time you ate something just because it was free? A glass of wine at a work event.A dessert “on the house.”That second trip to the buffet—even though you were already full. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, we explore the subtle but powerful pull of free food and drink—why it’s so hard to say no, what it’s really costing us, and how midlife women can start reclaiming their health by paying attention to the hidden trade-offs. If you’ve ever found yourself eating or drinking something you didn’t really want—just because it was included—you’re not alone. We’ll unpack the mindset of getting your “money’s worth,” how it intersects with your identity as a smart, capable woman, and why the cost of “free” might show up in your sleep, energy, digestion, mood, or confidence. And most importantly? You’ll leave this episode with tools to pause, get Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #257: The Truth About Step Goals, Belly Fat, and Burnout

If you’re hitting your step goal every day and still dealing with stubborn belly fat, low energy, or burnout, this episode is for you. The advice to “just walk more” sounds simple—but for many women in midlife, it’s not delivering the results they were promised. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, Elizabeth Sherman breaks down the truth about step goals and why obsessing over numbers like 10,000 steps a day can quietly work against your health in midlife. Especially if you’re navigating perimenopause, fatigue, stress, or unexplained weight gain, this conversation will help you understand what’s really going on. We’ll look at where the 10,000-step rule came from, why it became so powerful in Western fitness culture, and how tying your worth to activity metrics can fuel burnout, injuries, and frustration. More importantly, Elizabeth shares what to focus on instead—so your movement actually supports your body, hormones, and Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #256: Fearing Hunger: The Hidden Driver of Cravings & Weight

Fear of hunger doesn’t usually look like skipping meals or white-knuckling through starvation. For most midlife women, it shows up much earlier—eating “just in case,” snacking to prevent discomfort, or worrying that if you don’t eat now, you’ll lose control later. Over time, this pattern quietly fuels overeating, weight frustration, and constant mental noise around food. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, Elizabeth Sherman breaks down how dieting trained many women to fear hunger—and why that fear is often the real driver behind overeating, not lack of willpower. If you’ve ever wondered why you eat before you’re hungry, why snacks feel necessary even when meals are planned, or why food decisions feel harder than they should, this conversation will feel uncomfortably familiar—in the best way. This episode isn’t about pushing through hunger or going back to restriction. It’s about understanding what hunger actually is, why it feels so Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #255: Becoming Fierce with Julie Steed

Divorce and empty nest can feel like an emotional earthquake… and then your body starts acting weird on top of it. Sleep gets choppy. Appetite is all over the place. Your energy tanks. And suddenly your “midlife health issues” feel even more confusing because you can’t tell what’s hormones, what’s stress, and what’s just sheer life overload. In this episode, I’m joined by Julie Steed—certified life coach and National Board Certified Health & Wellness Coach—who helps divorced empty nesters rebuild their lives (and themselves) without treating divorce like a life sentence. We talk about why this season hits your body so hard, what women often get wrong about “being strong,” and how Julie’s FIERCE framework helps women move from survival mode to a real, exciting next chapter. If you’re trying to get your health, weight, and energy back on track while your life is changing fast… this conversation will help Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #254: How to Trust Yourself Around Food Again in Perimenopause

If you feel like a smart, capable woman who can handle everything in your life except food, this episode is for you. We’re talking about what it actually looks like to trust yourself around food again in perimenopause – without another strict diet, macro plan, or “never eat sugar again” rule. In this conversation, I walk you through the hidden reasons you keep ending up in the Sunday night “last supper,” the Monday morning “I’ll be good,” and the 9 pm pantry raid… even though you swore you wouldn’t do it again. You’ll hear why this has nothing to do with you being weak or broken, and everything to do with biology, hormones, stress, and the skills you were never taught. We’ll look at the specific skills that women who seem “normal” around food actually have – things like not making overeating a moral failure, knowing when they’re truly hungry Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #253: Done With Diets but Still Overeating? How to Break the Cycle

You’ve done the diets. You know the rules. You can list calories and carb counts in your sleep. But somehow, you still find yourself standing in front of the pantry at 10:30 pm, finishing the bag of pretzels and asking, “What is wrong with me? I know better than this.” In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, we’re talking about what’s really going on when you’re done with dieting… but still overeating. We’ll look at why all the plans, macros, and rules haven’t fixed this pattern, and why your late-night snacks, weekend overeats, and “village-sized” takeout orders aren’t actually proof that you’re broken—they’re clues. You’ll learn how to recognize the moment you’re truly ready to stop overeating (it’s not just “I hate my body, I need to lose weight”), and we’ll unpack the three quiet thoughts that keep smart, high-achieving women stuck: “I should be able to do this Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #252: Nighttime Cravings in Midlife: It’s Not a Willpower Problem

You’re doing “all the right things” with food… and yet the scale won’t budge, your cravings are loud, and you’re so tired at night that the pantry starts calling your name. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, Elizabeth breaks down why overeating, night snacking, and constant grazing are almost never about willpower—and how they’re tied to real, physical changes in your midlife body. We’ll dig into how low protein, blood sugar swings, poor sleep, and a more sensitive nervous system in perimenopause and menopause quietly drive overeating long before you ever see the chocolate. You’ll hear how emotions like stress, loneliness, and “I just need a break” sneak into your eating habits, even if you don’t see yourself as an “emotional eater.” Instead of another list of rules to “just be good,” you’ll learn a simple way to understand why you’re really eating when you’re not hungry—and why Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #251: Cravings, Stress, Belly Fat: Why Willpower Isn’t Your Problem

You start every January with a new plan: stricter rules, cleaner eating, earlier workouts. By March, the plan has quietly vanished, and you’re left blaming yourself… again. In this episode, we pull back the curtain on why your 2025 diet really failed—and why it has a lot less to do with willpower and a lot more to do with being a midlife woman with an actual life, actual hormones, and actual responsibilities. We unpack the hidden reasons your “perfect” plan fell apart: night snacking on the couch, saying yes to food you don’t want so you don’t offend anyone, mistaking exhaustion for hunger, and using “I deserve this” food as your only form of self-care. Instead of shaming you for not sticking to the plan, we treat those moments as data that show you what’s really going on with your body, brain, and environment. You’ll learn why traditional diets aren’t Read More . . .

Goal Setting Series Episode #4: Maintaining Motivation

If you’ve ever felt like your motivation evaporates the moment life gets stressful, this episode will feel like someone finally turned the lights on. In this final part of the Goal Setting Series, we dig into why midlife women struggle to stay consistent with their health habits — and why it has nothing to do with discipline, willpower, or “trying harder.” Instead, I’ll show you why your system is failing you, not the other way around. You’ll learn how midlife emotional load, hormonal shifts, caregiving, work pressure, and daily unpredictability make traditional goal-setting strategies completely unrealistic — and what to do instead. This episode also breaks down the three forces that actually create consistency: identity, commitment, and focus. You’ll hear real stories of women who transformed their habits using micro-wins and simple systems that fit into real life — not fantasy life. If you’re tired of restarting, tired of feeling Read More . . .

Goal Setting Series Episode #3: Overcoming Obstacles

Most midlife women think they fail at their goals because they lose motivation, get too stressed, or can’t stay consistent. But what if the real reason has nothing to do with discipline at all? In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, we uncover the hidden forces that derail your habits long before you ever “fall off track.” This conversation is about the obstacles you don’t see coming—the emotional labor, invisible responsibilities, and overloaded schedule that make traditional goal-setting impossible. You’ll learn why your habits collapse the moment life gets chaotic, why this pattern is predictable, and how to finally build goals that can survive the real rhythm of your days. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I stay consistent?” or “Why do my goals fall apart the minute I’m busy?”, this episode will show you what’s actually happening beneath the surface. And more importantly, it will show you how Read More . . .

Goal Setting Series Episode #2: Myths of Achieving Goals

If you’ve ever set a goal with the best intentions, only to watch it fall apart a few weeks later, this episode will feel like someone finally turned the lights on. Today, we’re digging into the hidden myths that quietly sabotage midlife women — myths that make you think you’re the problem when, in reality, your model was flawed from the start. In Part 2 of the Goal Setting Series, Elizabeth breaks down why health and habit goals collapse even when you’re committed, smart, disciplined, and doing “all the right things.” These myths show up as believable reasons, familiar patterns, and well-worn stories about motivation, consistency, timing, and willpower — and they are the reason women in midlife struggle to make health changes stick. The episode doesn’t shame you for these patterns — it explains them. More importantly, it shows you why the strategies you’ve been told to use were Read More . . .

Goal Setting Series Episode #1: Setting Realistic Goals

Most midlife women don’t struggle with goals because they’re undisciplined. They struggle because they’ve been taught to set goals as if they’re living in their past life—the one with more energy, fewer responsibilities, and a calmer hormonal landscape. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, we’re kicking off a powerful four-day Goal Setting Series designed to help you set goals that finally stick. Today’s episode explores why the traditional goal-setting methods you’ve relied on for years never accounted for your invisible workload, emotional labor, shifting hormones, or the reality of being “the responsible one” in everyone’s life. We pull apart the myth of the “realistic” goal and uncover the structural mismatch that causes your habits to fall apart the moment life gets loud. If you’ve ever thought, “I should be able to do this,” only to watch your goals crumble during busy seasons, this episode will give you relief, Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #250: Future-Self Living

Most women in midlife know what it feels like to hit a wall with their health – the fatigue that won’t go away, the weight that won’t budge, the anxiety that shows up out of nowhere. And when you’re stuck in that place, it’s easy to believe there is no way forward.In this milestone 250th episode of Total Health in Midlife, Elizabeth shares the single practice that helped her reconnect with her body, soften the harsh self-judgment that midlife often brings, and finally feel hopeful about her health again: living from her future self. Through story, reflection, and deeply relatable examples, Elizabeth explains how imagining the version of you who has already figured out her health (the calm, confident, well-rested version) can change the decisions you make today. You’ll hear how a topless French woman in Tahiti unexpectedly became her North Star, and how a monthly photo ritual helped her Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #249: Big Rocks

Most women in midlife don’t struggle because they’re “not disciplined enough.” They struggle because the wellness world has trained them to focus on details that don’t actually change their health. So they spend time, energy, and money on supplements, special drinks, detox protocols, tracking tools, and wellness trends—while overlooking the simple habits that create real, lasting results. In this episode, I’m talking about the difference between the health “big rocks” that move the dial and the marbles and sand that make you feel like you’re working hard while barely getting anywhere. I share the Costco hot dog story, the ice conversation, and my own tendency to chase fixes before building a strong foundation. If you’re overwhelmed by all the conflicting advice online—or if you’re trying hard and still not feeling better—this episode will help you understand exactly why things haven’t been clicking. And more importantly, what to do next. The Read More . . .

Holiday Health Series Episode #4: The Martyr Myth

In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, Elizabeth Sherman pulls back the curtain on one of the biggest reasons women end the holiday season feeling exhausted, resentful, and disconnected from themselves: the Martyr Myth. If you’ve ever found yourself doing everything for everyone else—wrapping the gifts, cooking the meals, organizing the schedule—while telling yourself, “It’s just easier if I do it,” this episode will hit home. Elizabeth explains why high-achieving women so often fall into this role, how over-functioning quietly destroys your health, and why taking your hands off the wheel (even a little) might be the most healing thing you do this year. With a mix of humor, tough love, and compassionate truth-telling, she’ll show you how to stop running on fumes and start reclaiming your energy, boundaries, and self-respect. Because you can’t keep calling exhaustion “love” and burnout “tradition.” This is part one of Elizabeth’s 4-part Holiday Read More . . .

Holiday Health Series Episode #3: Your Holiday Bare Minimums

The holiday season has a way of turning capable, health-conscious women into overextended versions of themselves. Between travel, parties, family expectations, and endless to-do lists, it feels like you either have to be perfect or give up completely. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, Elizabeth Sherman shows you a third option—the Bare Minimum Holiday Plan. She explains how defining your personal “minimums” for movement, food, rest, and emotional care can help you stay consistent without adding pressure or guilt. If you’ve ever started December with great intentions and ended up saying, “Forget it, I’ll start again in January,” this conversation will change how you approach the season. You’ll learn to find a rhythm that keeps you grounded and proud—no perfection required. This is Episode 3 in the 4-part Holiday Health Series, designed to help midlife women feel strong, calm, and in control from Thanksgiving through the New Year. Read More . . .

Holiday Health Series Episode #2: The Invisible Holiday Load

Between shopping lists, social calendars, and endless wrapping paper, it can feel like the entire weight of the holidays rests on your shoulders. You’re not imagining it — that invisible load is real, and it’s costing you more than just sleep. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, Elizabeth unpacks why so many women feel responsible for making the holidays “magical” for everyone else — and why that pressure leaves them exhausted, resentful, and off track with their health by January. You’ll learn how cultural conditioning, people-pleasing, and “scope creep” quietly chip away at your energy and self-care, plus the one mindset shift that can help you reclaim calm and joy this season. This episode will show you that boundaries aren’t selfish; they’re the key to your sanity and your health. If you’ve ever sworn you’d “do less next year” but somehow ended up doing even more, this conversation Read More . . .

Holiday Health Series Episode #1: Holiday Food & Body Triggers

Feeling like the holidays undo every bit of progress you’ve made with your health? You’re not alone. Between sugar-filled gatherings, endless to-do lists, and the pressure to “make it magical,” midlife women often end up exhausted, bloated, and quietly promising themselves they’ll start over in January. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, Elizabeth Sherman breaks down what’s really happening beneath the overeating, overdrinking, and overcommitting that show up every December. Spoiler: it’s not about willpower. It’s about stress, hormones, and the invisible load that midlife women carry when everyone expects them to hold it all together. Elizabeth shares her own holiday wake-up call—standing in her closet before a party, frustrated that nothing fit—and the simple mindset shift that changed everything. You’ll learn how to approach the holidays without restriction, guilt, or perfectionism, and how small, intentional choices can help you feel grounded and proud when January 2nd arrives. Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #248: Upleveling Your Health

You’ve upgraded everything—your skincare, your wine, your wardrobe.You’re not DIYing your hair in the bathroom anymore. You’ve outgrown fast fashion, bad coffee, and relationships that take more than they give. And yet… when it comes to your health? You’re still stuck in the bargain bin. Still trying to “just do it” with free downloads, 30-day resets, or the same rules you learned from your mom’s Weight Watchers meetings. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I’m pulling back the curtain on the disconnect so many high-achieving women are living with—and the lightbulb moment that changed everything for me and for my client Kathy. We’ll talk about why “knowing what to do” isn’t the problem—and why smart, successful women still struggle with their health despite doing everything “right.” If you’ve ever said, “I know what to do, I’m just not doing it,” this episode is going to reframe everything. It’s Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #247: What My Hair Taught Me About Midlife Health

What do curly hair and your midlife health journey have in common? More than you’d think. In Episode 247 of Total Health in Midlife, Elizabeth Sherman shares a personal story about ditching the flat iron—and discovering that the path to healthier hair was eerily similar to the path so many midlife women take toward better health. The endless trial-and-error, the frustration, the belief that there must be one perfect product (or plan) out there if you could just find it. This episode is for every woman who’s ever said “Just tell me what to do” and still ended up feeling stuck, exhausted, or like her body just doesn’t respond the way it used to. Elizabeth dives into the mindset traps, the false promises of quick fixes, and the deeply empowering truth about what actually works. The Biggest Problem Midlife Women Face Regarding Midlife Health Habits The biggest problem women in Read More . . .