Total Health in Midlife Episode #200: Goals Are Just Guesses

Ever fail achieving a goal and then just want to forget about it? In this episode of the Total Health in Midlife podcast, I take the traditional approach to goal-setting and turn it on its head in favor of diving into what really matters: flexibility and authenticity. I opened up about my own journey—setting big, ambitious goals, only to realize that the real growth came when I allowed myself to change course. Let me challenge you to rethink how you’re setting goals. Are they truly in line with who you are today? We’ll explore the power of behavior-based goals—where daily actions, not just outcomes, take center stage. This shift can transform your sense of accomplishment, keeping you motivated and grounded in the present. I’ll share how releasing the pressure to achieve unrealistic expectations can lead to building sustainable habits and embracing change without the weight of guilt. After all, it’s Read More . . .

The Power of ‘Half-Assing’ Your Health: Why Perfection Isn’t Necessary for Progress

This article was written for and originally published on Sixty and Me Here Ever feel like you need to overhaul your entire life to get healthy? Have you ever found yourself putting off making changes because you can’t do it all perfectly? If this resonates, you’re not alone and many women just like you feel overwhelmed by health advice that seems to demand perfection. But what if I told you that you don’t need to be perfect to make real progress? In fact, embracing a ‘half-assed’ approach to your health might be the key to lasting change. Half-assing your health isn’t about lowering your standards. It’s about making consistent, manageable improvements that add up over time. Half-assing your health is about making progress, not striving for perfection. And it’s an approach that can lead to better health, more energy, and yes, even weight loss if that’s your goal. In this Read More . . .

Goal Setting Series #1: Setting Realistic Goals

Are your goals often oversized and unrealistic, leading to feelings of failure and disappointment when you can’t meet them?  Join me as I redefine goal setting in the context of midlife, focusing on the power of achievable, behavior-focused goals that lead to lasting change. I share personal experiences and insights, shedding light on the necessity of meeting ourselves where we currently are in life.  We challenge the norm, demonstrating that it’s entirely okay, and even necessary, to adjust and evolve our goals as we grow, highlighting the importance of flexibility in this process. I also talk about common goal-setting myths, debunking them one by one. I illuminate the value of adaptability and the power of taking small, deliberate steps towards your future.  I invite you to journey with me, transforming your aspirations into attainable realities, and making this year a year of true growth and fulfillment. Get ready to change Read More . . .

Done with Dieting Episode #150: Setting Goals and Missing Marks: A Raw Recap

Here’s a powerful notion to consider: What if falling short of your goal was the best thing that could happen to you?  In this episode, I recount the highs and lows of the past year, celebrating the podcast milestones and embracing the detours, like rebranding and unforeseen setbacks.  If your expectations are tied to societal norms, let’s shake them up a bit. Personal freedom is at the core of our discussion as we wade through the waters of change and personal growth. I reassess my goals and champion the idea of embracing life’s imperfections. So, prepare yourself, the journey to personal growth isn’t about perfection but more about resilience in the face of adversity.  Lastly, I have a heart-to-heart about celebrating small behavioral victories over grand end goals. It’s easy to get disheartened when we don’t meet our lofty goals, but what if we shift our focus to smaller, more Read More . . .

Done with Dieting Episode #130: The Power of Community

Are you ready to transform your life and embrace the power of community and coaching? In this uplifting episode, I’m sharing how the Feel Good Sisterhood works; an extraordinary year-long group coaching program designed specifically for women in midlife. Discover how this program fosters healthier relationships with food, exercise, and ourselves, with an emphasis on sustainable habits and skills that last a lifetime. I’ll explore the incredible benefits of group coaching, including community building, accountability, diverse perspectives, and shared wisdom. Learn how the Feel Good Sisterhood’s weekly calls, targeted pieces of training, and reflective prompts can revolutionize your relationship with food, your body, and your health.  Connect with a vibrant community of women who are committed to their growth, success, and evolution, and share vulnerabilities as we navigate midlife shifts and menopausal changes together. Don’t miss this opportunity to embark on a liberating journey with the support of the Feel Read More . . .

Done with Dieting Episode #22: The Power of Visualization in Weight Loss

Do you use the power of visualization when it comes to achieving your goals? If you’re not, you’re missing out. I’ve talked about visualization on the podcast before, in a few techniques that I use within my coaching practice, but on episode 22 of the Done with DIeting Podcast, we’re talking about the power that visualization has to create your results: Visualizing what’s going to happen BEFORE it even happens. See, we often use our past experiences to determine if we’re capable of doing something in the future. (Example: I’ve made rice before, so I’m relatively confident that I can make risotto.)  Because weight loss will often take several attempts before we are successful. We often use those past attempts as evidence that weight loss isn’t meant for us. When your confidence and belief that you can be successful in your goal are low, having a vision can help you Read More . . .

Why goals might not get you to your goal

There are no shortage of memes about goals. “A goal without a plan is just a wish” “Set your goals high, and don’t stop until you get there” “Goals that are not written down are just wishes” Aaaah! They’re endless! Not only were goals a huge part of my early success with my weight, but they were a cornerstone of my health coaching business for a long time. I would teach folks about SMART Goals. How to create them, and help them through the process. But I’ve changed my attitude about goals. I don’t think they’re necessary anymore. I have a client who’s daughter is one of the most disciplined kids that I know. Every year, she’d create New Years Resolutions, and actually complete them! I Know! Who does that?!? I think they were tests of her willpower. When she was in high-school, she created a New Years Resolution to perform Read More . . .

What do you say to yourself?

Have I mentioned lately how much I love my bodybugg? I also have the display device which, when I originally got it, didn't think it was that useful. After all, I uploaded my information on a pretty consistent basis – twice or three times a day. Since it doesn't take that long to upload the data from the armband, it was really easy for me to keep track of the number of calories I was burning. Well, once I got the digital display, I realized that I didn't need to update as often as I had been doing, because the digital display allows me to see almost real time how many calories I'm burning. Yes, Exactly! It allows me to be even more anal retentive than I had been before! So anyway, I recently set a goal to burn 100 calories per hour, or 2400 calories per day. I burn Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #202: How to Enjoy Treats Without the Guilt

Do you find yourself weighed down by guilt every time you indulge in a treat, or have your attempts to eliminate them left you bingeing later on? In this episode, I’m revealing how the “all or nothing” approach to treats backfires and how you can enjoy your favorite indulgences without sabotaging your health goals. I introduce a new perspective on treats that might change not just your eating habits but your entire outlook on life. Discover how limiting treats doesn’t mean depriving yourself, but instead finding a sweet spot where you can enjoy all the foods you love without compromising your health goals. I’ll dive into why completely eliminating treats often leads to binging and how to create a sustainable, guilt-free relationship with food. I also share real-life examples of how clients have transformed their relationship with treats. You’ll learn why gradual, mindful reductions in your treat consumption are more Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #201: How to Stop Overeating Without Dieting

Are you tired of feeling like you’re constantly at war with food? Do you find yourself overeating, only to feel guilty afterward? In this episode, I reveal a simple but transformative approach to eating: learning how to ‘eat just enough.’ This practice has not only changed my life but has helped countless clients break free from the cycle of dieting and guilt. You’ll discover how to enjoy all your favorite foods while maintaining a healthy weight, without ever needing to diet again. And you will not feel restricted or deprived We’ll explore why traditional diets set you up for failure and why willpower alone isn’t the answer. I’ll introduce you to a powerful tool that helps you tune in to your body’s hunger signals, so you can stop relying on external rules about when or how much to eat. By learning to eat just enough, you can master the delicate Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife BONUS Episode: Hormone Harmony Summit

Could the changes in your body be more than random? This week on Total Health in Midlife, I talked with Valerie Simms, life coach and founder of the upcoming Hormone Harmony Summit. Valerie’s work reveals often-ignored links between life events—like divorce—and hormonal symptoms such as brain fog, mood swings, and insomnia. After transitioning from financial planning to holistic health, Valerie noticed gaps in conventional medicine’s support for women, inspiring her to create the Hormone Harmony Summit, now in its fourth season. Airing November 21, the summit brings together experts to discuss holistic approaches to hormone balance, from nutrition to Reiki. Join us for a preview of the event, where Valerie shares how these insights can help you take control of your health. Don’t miss this chance to transform your understanding of your body and well-being. About Valerie Simms Valerie Simms is a professional life coach dedicated to helping her clients Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #199: Navigating Adult ADHD w/ Xena Jones

Have you ever felt like your brain is on a roller coaster, one minute laser-focused, and the next completely lost?  If this sounds familiar, know that it’s not just you. Many women in midlife are discovering they have ADHD, a condition often overlooked for women in the past. Join us as we dive into the world of ADHD for women in midlife with Xena Jones, an expert coach and host of the “Navigating Adult ADHD Podcast.” Discover why so many women are being diagnosed with ADHD in midlife and learn about the unique symptoms they often experience. From inattentiveness and anxiety to hyperactivity and perfectionism, ADHD can manifest in various ways – different from our understanding of how boys and men exhibit ADHD. Understand the challenges ADHD can pose for friendships and discover practical strategies for building and maintaining meaningful connections. Uncover the crucial role of dopamine in ADHD and Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #198: Stress: The Hidden Saboteur of Your Health

Are you tired of feeling like you’re constantly running on empty, no matter how hard you try?  In this episode of the Total Health in Midlife podcast, I tackle one of the most overlooked yet crucial aspects of health: stress management. I challenge the traditional advice of bubble baths and breathing exercises, arguing that these reactive strategies fail to address the root of the problem.  Stress, particularly for women in midlife, is not just about managing responsibilities—it’s the silent force affecting sleep, eating habits, exercise, and overall well-being. I draw from my own experience as a personal trainer and life coach to explain how the relentless mental load of daily life—family, work, social expectations—has conditioned many to normalize stress.  I offer a game-changing approach, introducing proactive tools like the ‘Think, Feel, Act Cycle’ and the ‘Motivational Triad’ to help listeners break free from the stress cycle and build resilience. Through Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #197: The Dangers of Diet Breaks

Are you stuck in the frustrating cycle of starting and stopping your health journey?  Tune in to my latest episode as I uncover the real reasons behind this common struggle and share actionable strategies to break free once and for all. I explore the pitfalls of the “taking a break” mentality and emphasize the importance of prioritizing health over weight loss.  Through inspiring stories, including that of my client Judy, I illustrate how embracing imperfect action and maintaining the bare minimum consistency can lead to lasting success. Learn how to shift your mindset from all-or-nothing to consistent, manageable actions, finding joy and balance in the process, so that healthy habits become a permanent, enjoyable part of your life. In this engaging discussion, I also tackle overcoming perfectionist thinking and adopting flexible approaches like B-minus habits. Discover how to nourish your body with delicious foods, engage in joyful movement, and create Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #196: Listener Q&A: Deciding Ahead of Time

In this powerful episode, I answer listener questions, including how to set realistic health goals when your schedule is packed, what to do when unexpected events throw you off course, and how to build the self-trust and confidence needed to follow through on your health commitments. I share my personal experiences and the strategies that have helped me and my clients break free from the cycle of self-sabotage and start making lasting, meaningful changes in their health.  The episode also explores the power of planning ahead, even for those who don’t consider themselves naturally inclined to organize or plan. I provide practical tips for incorporating planning into daily routines and discuss the benefits of doing so, such as reduced stress and increased likelihood of following through on health commitments. Throughout the episode, I emphasize the importance of taking responsibility for one’s health and encourage listeners to seek the support they Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #195: How Sleep Impacts Your Health, Weight, and Mood

Do you ever feel like your body is working against you as you get older?  As we enter midlife, it’s common to face challenges in our health that can leave us feeling stuck or frustrated. Whether it’s unexplained weight gain, fatigue, or the overwhelming task of managing stress while balancing work, family, and personal health goals, the journey can feel isolating.  In this episode of the Total Health in Midlife podcast, we’re diving deep into the tools and strategies that can help you take back control of your health. From understanding how hormones impact our bodies to finding sustainable ways to manage stress, I’ll guide you through practical steps that are rooted in science and easy to incorporate into your daily routine.  If you’ve been feeling like your body is changing in ways you can’t keep up with, or if you’ve struggled to find a balance between your health and Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife BONUS Episode : The Fearless Money Mind Summit

In this bonus episode of the Total Health in Midlife podcast, I’m joined by financial expert Elizabeth Rose to discuss why many women struggle with taking control of their finances. We dive into the mindset that often holds women back and explore the cultural and societal influences behind it. Whether you’re just starting to manage your money or want to improve your financial strategy, this episode offers valuable insights for changing your money mindset. Elizabeth shares simple, actionable steps women can take right away to build financial confidence. From creating a budget that works for you to making smart investment choices, you’ll learn key strategies for gaining control of your finances. It’s not just about managing money—it’s about feeling empowered to make decisions that protect your future and well-being. Elizabeth also introduces her upcoming summit, “Fearless Money Mind,” starting on October 16th. This event will bring together experts to help Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #194: Longevity Secrets w/ Denise Stegall

Are you tired of feeling like your health is slipping away as you navigate midlife?  In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I sit down with Denise Stegall, a three-time best-selling author and “Longevity Concierge,” to explore how you can create a healthier, more fulfilling life without resorting to restrictive diets or punishing workouts. Denise offers practical, real-life advice on eating nourishing food without feeling deprived, making personalized health decisions that work for your unique lifestyle, and embracing accountability without shame.  We also dive into how your mindset can unlock your health potential and the surprising impact social relationships have on your well-being. From the connection between oral health and Alzheimer’s to the importance of sleep and navigating social challenges, this episode is packed with eye-opening insights and actionable strategies to help you stop fighting your body and start working with it.  Tune in to discover how to feel Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #193: How to Mindlessly Eat Less

Ever wondered why you can’t stop eating even when you’re not hungry?  The truth might shock you! Discover the surprising reasons behind your overeating habits and how simple environmental tweaks can turn your eating patterns around. In this eye-opening episode, I dive into the hidden factors influencing your food choices—like the shape of your glasses and the size of your plates—that secretly encourage you to eat more than you intended. I’ll reveal how small, yet powerful changes can help you gain control over your eating habits without feeling restricted. Learn how to set up your environment for success with tricks that make mindful eating easier and more intuitive. From clever plate tricks to optimizing the visibility of healthy foods, I share the secrets to effortlessly managing your intake and achieving your health goals. Tune in to find out how these simple adjustments can make a huge difference in your daily Read More . . .

Total Health in Midlife Episode #192: Breaking Free from the Comfort Trap

Can embracing discomfort truly transform your life?  Picture this scenario: avoiding social events out of self-consciousness or missing out on adventures due to fear. We’ve all been there, stuck in our comfort zones, but today, I’ll show you how pushing through these discomforts can unlock a richer, more fulfilling life.  On this episode of the Total Health in Midlife podcast, I share personal stories and insights on why our natural aversion to discomfort often limits our potential and keeps us stuck in situations we wish to change. By exploring the paradox of short-term comfort versus long-term goals, you’ll learn practical strategies to leverage discomfort for greater strength, capability, and overall satisfaction. Emotional discomfort often leads us to make choices that conflict with our long-term aspirations. We’ll discuss how habits like overeating, binge-watching, and avoiding physical activity serve as quick fixes but ultimately leave us feeling worse.  Through relatable examples, including Read More . . .