What happens when you’re so good at keeping everything together… that you forget to take care of yourself? In this episode of The Total Health in Midlife Podcast, I’m joined by Master Certified Coach and people-pleasing expert Sara Fisk to explore a surprising culprit behind so many women’s exhaustion, resentment, and stalled health goals: high-functioning codependency. We’re not talking about the kind of codependency tied to addiction. This is the polished, over-performing version that shows up in moms, partners, daughters, and leaders—the women who hold everything and everyone together… and quietly fall apart in the process. Sara shares how people-pleasing, perfectionism, and control patterns drain your energy, chip away at your physical and emotional health, and keep you stuck in a cycle of doing for others while ignoring your own needs. If you’ve ever found yourself running ragged fixing other people’s problems, this episode will help you come back to Read More . . .

Making—and keeping—friends in midlife can feel surprisingly hard. In this episode of the Total Health in Midlife podcast, I’m joined by Nina Badzin, writer and host of the Dear Nina podcast, to talk about the real stuff that comes up in adult friendships—like feeling left out, keeping score, and what to do when your once-close friends just… fade. Whether you’ve ever wondered, “Is it just me?” or you’ve found yourself ghosted or burned out from being the one who always initiates, you’re not alone—and you’re not doing it wrong. This episode is full of validation, fresh perspective, and practical tips to help you build stronger, more satisfying friendships, even if it’s been a while. ABOUT NINA BADZIN Nina Badzin is the host of the podcast, Dear Nina: Conversations About Friendship. She’s a writer, teacher, and mom of four in Minneapolis who has been writing about friendship for over a decade. Read More . . .

Why is it so hard to start something you already know you want to do? In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, we’re pulling back the curtain on one of the most frustrating patterns women face when trying to improve their health: knowing what to do… but not actually doing it. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in prep mode, endlessly planning, researching, tweaking your routine without ever taking action, this one’s for you. We’ll explore why planning feels safer than doing, how perfectionism keeps you spinning, and the powerful mindset shift that turns overwhelming change into small, doable steps. With relatable stories, gentle humor, and practical takeaways, this episode will help you move from “I’m getting ready to start” to actually making progress, with less pressure and more self-trust. What You’ll Learn from this Episode Listen to the Full Episode: Featured on the Show: Full Episode Transcript: 240 Read More . . .

When life looks good on the outside, but feels empty on the inside, what do you do? In this episode of the Total Health in Midlife podcast, I’m joined by transformational mentor Judith Richey for a candid conversation about what happens when we spend too many years saying yes to everyone but ourselves. From the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways we lose ourselves in midlife, to the physical and emotional toll of ignoring our own needs, Judith shares her personal experience of hitting rock bottom, and how she found her way back. If you’ve ever wondered what it really means to reclaim your health, reconnect with your intuition, and create a life that actually feels aligned—you won’t want to miss this episode. This isn’t just inspiration. It’s instruction. About Judith Richey: Judith is a spiritual and transformative healer who guides women through deep emotional and energetic healing to reclaim clarity, peace, Read More . . .

Why do your healthy habits feel so easy in the summer… and so impossible by October? In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I’m unpacking a surprisingly overlooked reason your motivation disappears when the seasons change—and what to do instead of blaming yourself. You’ll hear how weather, light, mood, and routine can quietly hijack your habits unless you plan for them, and how understanding your own seasonal patterns can help you feel more consistent, confident, and in control—all year long. Whether you’re eating lighter and walking more right now, or already dreading the colder months ahead, this episode will help you spot the patterns before they sabotage your progress. What You’ll Learn from this Episode Listen to the Full Episode: Featured on the Show: Full Episode Transcript: Paste Here Enjoy the Show? Elizabeth ShermanElizabeth is a Master Certified Life and Health Coach with over 18 years of experience, dedicated Read More . . .

Have you ever eaten something you didn’t want—just because it was there, or because you didn’t want it to go to waste? In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I’m sharing a deeply personal story about leftovers, silent resentment, and the invisible rules so many women live by without even realizing it. What started with a container of forgotten vegetables turned into an unexpected insight about worth, sacrifice, and why we often take the smaller portion—not just at the dinner table, but in life. If you’ve ever felt like you’re always the one settling, always making do, always keeping things together while putting yourself last—this episode is for you. We’ll explore the hidden beliefs that drive these choices, how they affect your health, and what you can do to start choosing differently. This conversation isn’t about food.It’s about self-respect, small rebellions, and learning how to want again. What You’ll Read More . . .

Why is it that you can crush your to-do list, manage your household, support your family, and absolutely rock your career—…but still feel powerless around a plate of cookies? If you’ve ever told yourself, “I know what to do—I just can’t seem to do it,” this episode of Total Health in Midlife is for you. In this episode, Elizabeth Sherman reveals the hidden reasons traditional diets don’t solve overeating—and how they may actually make things worse. You’ll learn why relying on willpower, rigid rules, and food guilt keeps you stuck, and what it really takes to build lasting, sustainable change with food and your body. Tune in to discover why it’s not about eating perfectly…It’s about finally understanding why you eat when you’re not hungry—and what to do instead. What You’ll Learn from this Episode Listen to the Full Episode: Featured on the Show: Full Episode Transcript: 236 – The Read More . . .

“Food is fuel”. It sounds so clean and logical, doesn’t it? Like if we could just stick to that belief, everything would fall into place. We’d stop craving sweets when we’re stressed. We’d stop emotionally eating after a hard day. We’d finally be “in control.” But here’s the truth no one talks about: food isn’t just fuel. It’s comfort, connection, culture, memory, and celebration. And trying to pretend otherwise? That’s often what keeps us stuck. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I’m sharing why the “food is fuel” narrative might be doing more harm than good—and why giving yourself permission to enjoy food can actually lead to more peace, not less. If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t seem to stick to your “plan” or why you feel shame around emotional eating, this episode will help you see things in a whole new light. What You’ll Learn from Read More . . .

You’ve been “good” all day. You ate the healthy lunch. You passed on the afternoon treat. You had a reasonable dinner.And then… it hits. That creeping, nagging feeling that something is missing. You’re not hungry—but the pantry is calling your name. If you’re stuck in the cycle of nighttime overeating and can’t figure out why your willpower disappears after dark, this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, we unpack the real reasons why evenings feel so hard—and why diets, discipline, and food rules won’t fix the problem. You’ll learn what your body and brain are actually asking for when you reach for food at night, and how to start addressing those needs in ways that actually work. Because it’s not about controlling the snack.It’s about solving the right problem. What You’ll Learn from this Episode Listen to the Full Episode: Featured on the Show: Full Episode Transcript: 234 – Read More . . .

If the idea of eating without food rules sounds exciting—but also kind of terrifying—you’re not alone. Many women in midlife love the concept of intuitive eating but have no idea how to actually do it. Especially after decades of dieting, perfectionism, and trying to “be good,” the idea of trusting your body can feel like standing on a tightrope without a net. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I break down what’s really keeping you stuck when it comes to food. We’ll talk about why diets train you to ignore your body, how shame keeps you on the all-or-nothing roller coaster, and what it actually looks like to find the middle road between restriction and chaos. You’ll also hear personal stories—mine and my clients’—about what it looks like to slowly, gently rebuild trust in your body and eating habits without swinging into a brownie-eating free-for-all. You don’t need Read More . . .

What happens when your marriage ends but the rest of your life is still waiting for you to show up? In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I sit down with Valerie Simms, a divorce coach who blends financial expertise with emotional and spiritual support. Whether you’re contemplating divorce, navigating it now, or still feeling stuck years later, this conversation will remind you that you’re not broken—and you’re definitely not alone. Valerie shares what most people get wrong about divorce recovery, why your friends and family may not be the best place to turn for advice, and how to start rebuilding your identity from the ground up. If you’ve ever thought, “I should be over this by now” or “I don’t even know who I am anymore,” this one’s for you. We talk about the practical side of post-divorce life (hello, finances), but we also explore the deeper emotional Read More . . .

You’ve committed to eating better. Maybe you’ve even started feeling more like yourself again—more energy, fewer cravings, pants that fit the way you want them to. But then you go to dinner with friends… and suddenly, you’re halfway through a basket of fries you didn’t even want, wondering how you got there. If you’ve ever felt like changing how you eat starts messing with your relationships, you are not alone. In fact, the pressure to eat a certain way around others is one of the biggest hidden reasons women struggle to stick with new habits. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, we’re exploring what happens when food is more than just fuel—it’s friendship, tradition, and connection. And what it means when you start making different choices. Because it’s not about discipline. It’s about belonging. And if you’ve ever felt torn between doing what’s right for your body and Read More . . .

What if the key to better health in midlife isn’t a new diet… but a new way of thinking? In this episode of the Total Health in Midlife Podcast, I’m joined by former client and fellow podcaster Lanee Blaise. Lanee shares what it actually looked like to change her habits—not just for a season, but in a way that feels good and lasts. From navigating vacations without guilt to letting go of all-or-nothing thinking, this conversation is full of relatable moments, real struggles, and practical wins. We talk about what it means to become the woman who can keep the results she creates—and why slowing down and thinking things through is the most underrated health habit of all. Lanee brings wisdom, humor, and honesty to everything she touches. If you’ve ever felt like you “should know better” but still struggle to follow through, this one’s for you. What You’ll Learn Read More . . .

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the routine of life checking off the boxes, doing everything you’re “supposed to,” but quietly wondering, is this really all there is? If so, you’re going to love this conversation. I sat down with my new friend Jodi Silverman, the dynamic founder of the ‘Moms Who Dare’ community, and we talked all about rediscovering purpose, confidence, and joy through something so simple and so powerful: daring. But don’t worry, we’re not talking about jumping out of planes. These are doable dares, things like smiling at a stranger, saying yes to something new, laughing more often, or simply getting quiet enough to hear yourself again. Jodi walked me through her five foundational dares and how they can help us feel more connected, creative, and truly alive. We also explored how so many of us were taught to be serious growing up and how that Read More . . .

You think the problem is food. Or maybe it’s your lack of motivation. If only you had more discipline, or found the right plan, then everything would finally fall into place—right? But what if the real reason you’re not making progress isn’t about food, or workouts, or willpower? In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I’m pulling back the curtain on what’s really getting in the way of your health habits—and it’s probably not what you think. From skipping workouts to stress eating yogurt by the tub (yes, I’ve been there), we’re diving into why so many smart, capable women are solving for the wrong problem… and how that keeps us stuck in patterns that don’t serve us. If you’ve ever said, “I know what to do—I just don’t do it,” this episode is your invitation to rethink everything you thought was the issue. Because once you see what’s Read More . . .

Have you ever caught yourself wondering, How did I get here? You’re doing all the right things, checking off the to-do list, showing up for everyone else but somehow, your own joy feels like an afterthought. In this episode of the Total Health in Midlife Podcast, I sit down with Debbie Heiser, Chief Igniter of The Lit Up Life, to talk about what it really takes to build a business and a life that feels fully aligned and lit up from the inside out. Debbie and I talk about what it means to live in integrity with yourself while making good money doing work you love. We explore how so many of us, especially women, have been conditioned to downplay what we want, to stay small, and to avoid being “too much.” Debbie shares how learning to own your desires, trust your decisions, and flip the script on guilt and Read More . . .

Is this healthy… or fat as sh*t?” Why That Might Be the Wrong Question Entirely. Have you ever paused mid-scroll, staring at some sort of ‘food hack’ on Instagram, and wondered, “Wait… is that actually good for me?”  In this episode, I peel back the layers of that deceptively simple question and challenge the rigid good vs. bad food mindset that so many of us carry. Through a relatable Costco story, surprising examples (yes, even kale can be ‘unhealthy’ for some people), and a new framework called the “Three Food Buckets,” I help reframe how we think about food, moving away from judgment and toward self-trust and context. This episode dives into the exhausting cycle of all-or-nothing thinking, second-guessing every bite, and feeling like one “wrong” food choice will derail everything. I walk you through how you’ve been trained to treat food like a morality test and why that thinking Read More . . .

Have you ever noticed how you can be completely on it in one area of your life, like nailing your eating habits and moving your body, while completely bulldozing your own rules in another? You know that getting enough sleep makes you feel amazing, yet you stay up for just ‘one more’ episode. Or you set a boundary around your phone use, only to immediately check Instagram the next morning. Why do we do this?  This episode of The Total Health and Midlife Podcast dives into the deeper reasons why we override our own boundaries, and spoiler alert, it’s not about willpower. If you’ve ever found yourself breaking the very rules you set for yourself, this episode is for you.   We like to tell ourselves that discipline and self-control are the answers, but if that were true, we wouldn’t keep repeating the same patterns. The real issue? Disconnection. When we Read More . . .

What if the very thing you use to unwind is actually keeping you stuck? Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night with your heart racing and your mind spinning, wondering why you feel so anxious? Or maybe you notice a lingering unease throughout your day, a quiet hum of worry that you can’t quite place.  Most of us chalk it up to stress, hormones, or just the realities of midlife. But what if there’s another hidden factor that’s fueling your anxiety, one that’s so ingrained in our daily habits that we rarely question it? In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers on alcohol and anxiety, exploring how that evening glass of wine or celebratory cocktail might not be helping you relax as much as you think.   You don’t have to quit drinking, but what if you just paid attention? I share my personal journey of Read More . . .